Lorini wrote: Blackhawk wrote:
Let me ask you this. What position do I hold that you feel should change, just so we're clear?
The position (which you deleted, so I'm having to paraphrase, although I quoted part of it earlier) that being grabbed isn't all that traumatic, thus people complaining are overreacting. It completely ignores the context in which the grabbing often occurs. The impact of the grab is 90% context, 10% hands-on-bits.
Deleting it was pretty eye rolling, at least stand by what you say and if you didn't mean it then say so.
Oh for fuck's sake. I've spent 13 years on this board and owned everything I've ever said. I deleted my comments in a fit of pique because I recognize when I situation is untenable because people "feel" something is true and no amount of explanation, rephrasing, or debate will change that. Every single comment since then has been in support of my position. I do stand by my position, which is not the position that Blackhawk believes I hold, but no one gives a shit and have decided I'm a bad person, because they feel like I'm a bad person, so it must be true. It can't be the words I wrote, because they don't say what Blackhawk thinks they say, so what else is there?
As Blackhawk has illustrated, I am now viewed as someone who callously disregards the emotional impact of sexual assault (ALL sexual assault) based on words that have been interpreted in a way that I did not mean, about a specific event the details of which continue to be ignored by those who want to judge me and even though I've clarified repeatedly, no one has believed me, and now I'm being criticized for deleting my comments, even though as Blackhawk points out, they were quoted and aren't going anywhere, which I knew when I deleted them.
I think most women can survive having their boob grabbed in the circumstances illustrated in the mtv video without permanent emotional scarring. Obviously that means that I think women are overreacting in all harrassments and assaults.
Let me ask you this. Go watch the video. Come back here and tell me, just guess obviously, what percentage of women would need therapy after that event. I'm curious how our opinions of women's mental toughness differs.