Victoria Raverna wrote:Sectoid wrote:El Guapo wrote:ImLawBoy wrote:Sectoid wrote:One reason I see for this is that the parents (particularly the mothers) have some strange desire to have a child with a disability. Maybe it is that they want to feel pitied or that they want some special treatment.
This is absolutely ridiculous. Without getting into whether or not autism is misdiagnosed or overdiagnosed, it would be such an infitesimally small number of parents who have a desire to have a child with a disability, and those parents would have to be majorly otherwise mentally disturbed, that it's not even worth discussing.
+1.
*Maybe* some parents would prefer to be able to medicate their child over difficult (and exhausting) parenting struggles. I'd be reluctant to say that, but it's at least plausible. But to think that people would want to have a child with a disability is insanity.
El Guapo,
It is insane. That is my point. I can't even count the number of "Autism Awareness" ribbon magnets on minivans in my town. They are all right there, next to the "Soccer Mom"/"Lacrosse Mom" bumper stickers. They are bragging. I don't go around town with a OCD magnet on my car (which would have to be perfectly level and in line with the lines of the car).
I am not against Autism awareness, far from it. However, since the number of Autism cases has increased so dramatically over recent years are the kids that are
really suffering from it getting help?
This is turning into a bit of a Philosophical debate, but let me ask you something:
Do you feel better when you overcome adversity? Doesn't it feel good to get back up when you are knocked down?
Of course you do. It is human nature and it is also human nature to tell everyone how hard you had it and how you overcame it. It is why we root for the underdog. Part of our brain releases chemicals that make us feel better when something bad happens. Runners for example get a "runner's high" from endorphins. What the brain is actually telling you is that you should stop because you are doing serious damage here. There are some people who are addicted to these chemicals. It is why there are "cutters" and people who have unnecessary surgeries. Depression can also lead to the same problems. Which is why they are prescribed SSRIs. Serotonin gives you a feeling of well-being, which can snap you out of the depression cycle.
What could be worse than having a child with a serious problem? The catch here is that parents believe (whether intentional or not) that it is a controllable problem. With the added advantage of being able to control the child's behavior with medication and blame the disorder for what is wrong with their kids.
When ADD/ADHD first came about (yes I'm going back there), it was blamed for why a majority of kids could not do well in school. When it became an Axis I disorder (a decision I do not agree with), it became a legal reason to medicate your child and put them in "special" classes. How many kids actually have ADD/ADHD? I have no idea. Will you see improvement in a child's focus if you put them on Ritalin? In a majority of cases, yes. It affects the child chemically regardless of if they have the disorder or not.
So, in a the mind of a parent with an "overactive" child that they cannot deal with, why on earth would you not get the medication and the diagnosis?
I guess what I am trying to say, but am going off on tangents is that (at least around here) it has become the
thing to have a child with Autism. I think it is horrible too and something that will mark the child for a long time.
I think your problem with them is because you're jealous because you don't have kid with autism. You're jealous that you don't belong to the "club". I guess you're the insane one.
You're seriously crazy if you think that parents want their children to be diagnosed with autism. Most parents with autism that I know of are pretty much in denial and claim that their children are normal until it is not possible to ignore the sign. I doubt any of them want their children to be diagnosed with autism so that they can brag that they have hard time raising their children but they managed it.
I seriously disagree with you and I've come to the conclusion that none of you have any idea how crazy people are where I live (I'll include myself in that statement). I have a friend, and his wife is this way. She has 4 kids, 2 of which are twins. Twins being twins they are a little weird. They talk amongst themselves a lot which is normal for twins. If I had to live with someone the same age as me, that went to the same school as me, even the same class as me, I'd talk to them a lot too. As a result, she claims they have social interaction problems, are autistic and has gone through the trouble of pulling them out of school, not once, but twice. They have been home-schooled for a few years, then went to a normal school, then were home-schooled again and are now in a normal school again. Seriously, if I were home schooled with pretty much no one to talk to but my siblings, I'd have social problems too. There is nothing wrong with the twins. They are quite bright, have no problem talking to me, playing games with their siblings and some other friends, etc. I also have another friend who's wife claims their son is autistic. Is he social awkward? Yes, but no more than his father, who is doing quite well for himself. Again, he is a smart, albeit quirky, kid. Does that mean he should be labeled as "special needs" and put into a "special" school that will not teach him to be social, because it is chock full of kids with real problems mostly because the wife needs attention?
There are a lot of legitimate cases out there. I am not denying that. There are also parents who have it hard because they have to raise a child or children with autism. I am not denying that either. What I am saying is that, like the ADD/ADHD epidemic that seemed to sweep the nation a little while ago. Autism seems to be the new scape goat that parents (at least the ones around here) are clinging to. Part of the problem is that no one will tell these parents that there is nothing wrong with their children. It is in the doctor's or therapist's best interest for whoever walks in their door to have some sort of problem and to be fair we all have our share of problems. Kids will behave odd or just downright wrong now and again, but slapping a label on them (whether it be autism or ADD/ADHD) for the sake of the parents is not fair. It's not fair to the kids who will have to live under the stigma of having a disorder and it is not fair to people with a legitimate disorder.
Maybe I was a bit harsh in saying that they want a child to have a disorder and maybe you guys are right in that they are looking for some sort of explanation. The problem may be that there is no explanation. Their kids are just being kids.