Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
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I'm trying to follow here...
Are you all saying that cinema has a responsibility to not be creepy as people will behave inappropriately after watching?
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Creepy cinema is recognized as creepy?
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other?
Are you all saying that cinema has a responsibility to not be creepy as people will behave inappropriately after watching?
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Creepy cinema is recognized as creepy?
or
other?
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
One of my favorites as a kid was Revenge of the Nerds. I've actually got a copy of it on DVD, but it is one of the few favorites of my childhood that I'll never show my kids. What was hilarious in the early 80s is horrifying now.
Thanks for that.Skinypupy wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 10:45 am
Molly Ringwald wrote an excellent article back in April, revisiting "The Breakfast Club" through today's societal lens. I'd highly recommend giving it a look.
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
Other.noxiousdog wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 11:09 am I'm trying to follow here...
Are you all saying that cinema has a responsibility to not be creepy as people will behave inappropriately after watching?
or
Creepy cinema is recognized as creepy?
or
other?
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No, we're discussing the fact that sensibilities change over time and what once was considered innocent can take on new meanings as society changes. I don't watch Birth of a Nation now and say, "Well, the Klan truly are heroes!". But if I watched it when it was released, I may very well have thought that...and been in the majority.noxiousdog wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 11:09 am I'm trying to follow here...
Are you all saying that cinema has a responsibility to not be creepy as people will behave inappropriately after watching?
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Creepy cinema is recognized as creepy?
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other?
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
And I'll still watch Sixteen Candles or The Breakfast Club when they come on the air (and I have DVDs of those somewhere in the basement), but I'll cringe through the creepier parts. I think, as others have noted, that this is just commentary on how sensibilities have changed (and probably for the better here).
To tie it into the original discussion, Hardwick's alleged behavior probably wouldn't have raised an eyebrow 20 or even 10 years ago. Sensibilities have changed, and people are looking at it differently. There's obviously some debate about it still, but it's probably a good discussion to have.
To tie it into the original discussion, Hardwick's alleged behavior probably wouldn't have raised an eyebrow 20 or even 10 years ago. Sensibilities have changed, and people are looking at it differently. There's obviously some debate about it still, but it's probably a good discussion to have.
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I also think 10 or 20 years ago, Dykstra wouldn't have written that article...or if she had, she would have been immediately discounted as simply "emotional". I think we're seeing women feeling more and more empowered. I just hope that empowerment isn't abused by some who would use it for petty revenge or something (not saying this is an example, just stating a general fear).
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I haven't been following this thread closely, so I'm sorry if this is a repost. Apparently Chris' breakup text to Chloe was leaked and TMZ got it..
I don't know what to believe. That text sounds like the Chris in the podcasts. He has talked extensively about going through therapy and having many issues to deal with. On the podcasts, he appears to have empathy for others and knows how his actions can effect their lives. He talked about working on getting out of his "work mode" while dating Lydia (Hearst - now wife) and part of why they worked is she knew to give him 30 minutes or an hour after getting home some days to unwind before trying to do things so he could get out of his head. He's also talked about how the industry objectifies women and how it sucks. It's hard to picture him as a cackling manipulative abuser.
I wonder how much of it is the Obi-Wan thing - it's all the truth - from a certain point of view. The crummy part is that we'll probably never know.
I don't know what to believe. That text sounds like the Chris in the podcasts. He has talked extensively about going through therapy and having many issues to deal with. On the podcasts, he appears to have empathy for others and knows how his actions can effect their lives. He talked about working on getting out of his "work mode" while dating Lydia (Hearst - now wife) and part of why they worked is she knew to give him 30 minutes or an hour after getting home some days to unwind before trying to do things so he could get out of his head. He's also talked about how the industry objectifies women and how it sucks. It's hard to picture him as a cackling manipulative abuser.
I wonder how much of it is the Obi-Wan thing - it's all the truth - from a certain point of view. The crummy part is that we'll probably never know.
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I saw these last night, and am struggling to reconcile them with her story. The two don't have to be mutually exclusive, I suppose, but they sure don't fit together very well.stessier wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 12:13 pm I haven't been following this thread closely, so I'm sorry if this is a repost. Apparently Chris' breakup text to Chloe was leaked and TMZ got it..
I don't know what to believe. That text sounds like the Chris in the podcasts. He has talked extensively about going through therapy and having many issues to deal with. On the podcasts, he appears to have empathy for others and knows how his actions can effect their lives. He talked about working on getting out of his "work mode" while dating Lydia (Hearst - now wife) and part of why they worked is she knew to give him 30 minutes or an hour after getting home some days to unwind before trying to do things so he could get out of his head. He's also talked about how the industry objectifies women and how it sucks. It's hard to picture him as a cackling manipulative abuser.
I wonder how much of it is the Obi-Wan thing - it's all the truth - from a certain point of view. The crummy part is that we'll probably never know.
Perhaps his message was just another part of the "abuse" and was only intended to emotionally manipulate her? I have no goddamn idea at this point, and don't think I'm going to devote many more brain cells to it.
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It can certainly be read that way. If you've listened to him for a few hundred hours, though, you'd have a different impression (imo).
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I would imagine so. I don't know either of these people from Adam though. I vaguely remember him from an old G4 show (?), and have never heard of her.
My main impression is that this sounds mostly like a couple of people I wouldn't ever want to have anything to do with.
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He was on G4. Not sure if it's the guy you are picturing though. (Also on Singled Out with Jenny McCarthy if that was ever your jam.)
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
I don't know, it sounds pretty consistent with what she wrote. She says he sexually assaulted her, so why wouldn't she text 'You will always be my favorite person"?Skinypupy wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 12:55 pmI saw these last night, and am struggling to reconcile them with her story. The two don't have to be mutually exclusive, I suppose, but they sure don't fit together very well.
Perhaps his message was just another part of the "abuse" and was only intended to emotionally manipulate her? I have no goddamn idea at this point, and don't think I'm going to devote many more brain cells to it.
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You're fine.Blackhawk wrote:Make sure you let me know. I have no idea.tjg_marantz wrote: ↑Tue Jun 19, 2018 11:45 pm Daehawk and Blackhawk need to get more separate names. I can't tell which is the sane one and which is the obtuse one.
I think I've got it but still...
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
Thanks for taking the time. I still see a mostly bootstrapped narrative (like its more likely true because he’s a workaholic, or because Hardwick is allegedly losing blue checked followers, per the alt-right seeming “tech journalist” Cheong in the article, whose twitter reveals a real animus towards Hardwick, Wheaton, and other “fake feminists”).gbasden wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 3:59 amHere's one. I'm on a horrible wifi connection in a hospital so my search ability is limited.RuperT wrote: ↑Tue Jun 19, 2018 5:07 pmDo you have a link for any of these specific complaints from Hardwick’s peers? They’ve been presented as proof several times now, but I haven’t found anything particularly damning.gbasden wrote: ↑Tue Jun 19, 2018 3:43 pm Look, if she had posted what she posted and everyone surrounding them said that there was no basis in reality, Hardwick would still have a gig. Instead, pretty much everyone around them agreed that he's a controlling asshole. If she were nuts and there was no basis in reality how likely would that be?
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
People, in the general sense, have always believed what they were told. It's easier for one thing. To try and figure out what's going may require effort. You might have to actually read what someone wrote, or watch the movie they made, or listen to the music and lyrics, or study the photograph...whatever it takes.
OR you can simply listen to what people are saying, people you side with of course, and accept that as an accurate depiction. The time you saved can then be spent on something else.
With the amount of information we get these days, that effect is magnified. There might be twenty things a person has a big interest in, but that person might only have time to spend on five of them. What of the other fifteen? Well, just find what side your people are on and join that one.
OR you can simply listen to what people are saying, people you side with of course, and accept that as an accurate depiction. The time you saved can then be spent on something else.
With the amount of information we get these days, that effect is magnified. There might be twenty things a person has a big interest in, but that person might only have time to spend on five of them. What of the other fifteen? Well, just find what side your people are on and join that one.
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Because victims of abuse frequently do that? All you have to do is watch an episode of Cops to see real life examples.gameoverman wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 4:59 pmI don't know, it sounds pretty consistent with what she wrote. She says he sexually assaulted her, so why wouldn't she text 'You will always be my favorite person"?Skinypupy wrote: ↑Wed Jun 20, 2018 12:55 pmI saw these last night, and am struggling to reconcile them with her story. The two don't have to be mutually exclusive, I suppose, but they sure don't fit together very well.
Perhaps his message was just another part of the "abuse" and was only intended to emotionally manipulate her? I have no goddamn idea at this point, and don't think I'm going to devote many more brain cells to it.
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And pendulum continues to swing. And it will get worse.
The price of coming out against bad and willing relationship is extra publicity and public pity and spotlight, and price for the other side is everything.
This is not she said, he said. This is , she said and you screwed, regardless of what you say next. Guilty until proven innocent, and in his case they didnt stop to double check, within first few days all projects pretty much burned him at stake.
She is willingly in relationship, and she admits it, but you still get burned at the stake for one side of the story.
The price of coming out against bad and willing relationship is extra publicity and public pity and spotlight, and price for the other side is everything.
This is not she said, he said. This is , she said and you screwed, regardless of what you say next. Guilty until proven innocent, and in his case they didnt stop to double check, within first few days all projects pretty much burned him at stake.
She is willingly in relationship, and she admits it, but you still get burned at the stake for one side of the story.
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Well...I thought everyone made a good point until now.
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There's the toxic Red Pill and PUA mentality all coming home to roost in one terribly unsurprising post.
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And people found it surprising when nerd culture and the GamerGate movement turned out to be the chrysalis in which the American Nazi alt-right was formed.
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I endorse this sentiment.
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Yeah, I haven't liked the responses to his reply. The court of public opinion moves fast with these cases and if you play Devil's Advocate you can make a case that Hardwick is being vilified with a knee-jerk reaction. It's a reasonable point as this is most certainly not a black and white case. However, Matrix is being blasted for making it. I know, I know. He has a history of not being the most progressive when it comes to women. Still, he doesn't really deserve that reaction.
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There's questioning her motives/veracity in an attempt to get both sides of the story, then there's outright calling her a lying b word. I think everyone up until matrix was in the former (although I haven't read through the thread THAT closely).
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Where does he say she is lying? He's saying Hardwick is being strung up based solely on her word, not that she isn't being truthful.
Curse you for making me side with Matrix, but I don't see why others get a pass for saying the same thing he is.
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I can't help you if you've reached the conclusion that Matrix was trying to make a valid point and not spewing misogynistic crap all over the place.
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Good for you, I guess. I'll continue to believe in fairness when these accusations are made.
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Matrix isn't operating in a vacuum. He has a long posting history and in that context I don't think tjg is out of line.
That he duped lonely people out of their cash just so they could receive questionable advice regarding relationships is particularly off-putting to me.
As a professional dating coach, Matrix is one of the few people I've identified that ignoring everything they say about their area of expertise is the right thing to do.
People can be as uncomfortable about the responses to Matrix as they like. I probably would have worded it differently but I can't disagree with tjg's sentiment.
That he duped lonely people out of their cash just so they could receive questionable advice regarding relationships is particularly off-putting to me.
As a professional dating coach, Matrix is one of the few people I've identified that ignoring everything they say about their area of expertise is the right thing to do.
People can be as uncomfortable about the responses to Matrix as they like. I probably would have worded it differently but I can't disagree with tjg's sentiment.
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The answer is posting history.
If I ask you how your mom is doing, is that a sincere inquiry or a taunt?
A). We've had many sincere conversations about the health of your mother.
B). I've spent weeks talking about nailing your mom.
For Matrix, many of us know exactly what he thinks about these things because he's told us over and over and over
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Exactly, but it seems like you think I'm not taking that into account.
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WisePerson wrote:Tue Jun 19, 2018 3:09 amtjg_marantz wrote: ↑Tue Jun 19, 2018 1:58 am Jesus Christ this thread.
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Please look at the names beside the comments please. They are the same ones as ever. And to be fair, no accusation should be taken at face value just because it was made.
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lol enjoyable read, first of I worked with men and women, so I got both perspectives. Second, those 'poor saps' as you put it, were often some very smart people. Professors, business owners, etc. So you just seeing through your own lense, smart people don't just give you money for nothing.
You can fully disregard my point of view, and you are corret I haven't changed my stance but my stance is not pro women or men, I purely looking at circumstance and filter bs that often permeates discussion . What changed is that some people starting to see where i was coming from.
You can fully disregard my point of view, and you are corret I haven't changed my stance but my stance is not pro women or men, I purely looking at circumstance and filter bs that often permeates discussion . What changed is that some people starting to see where i was coming from.
GreenGoo wrote: ↑Thu Jun 21, 2018 1:25 pm Matrix isn't operating in a vacuum. He has a long posting history and in that context I don't think tjg is out of line.
That he duped lonely people out of their cash just so they could receive questionable advice regarding relationships is particularly off-putting to me.
As a professional dating coach, Matrix is one of the few people I've identified that ignoring everything they say about their area of expertise is the right thing to do.
People can be as uncomfortable about the responses to Matrix as they like. I probably would have worded it differently but I can't disagree with tjg's sentiment.
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One thing I've learned from reading this thread is that if adults make decisions that turn out to be mistakes, they are not responsible. Someone else manipulated them or abused them.Matrix wrote: ↑Thu Jun 21, 2018 3:07 pm lol enjoyable read, first of I worked with men and women, so I got both perspectives. Second, those 'poor saps' as you put it, were often some very smart people. Professors, business owners, etc. So you just seeing through your own lense, smart people don't just give you money for nothing.
You can fully disregard my point of view, and you are corret I haven't changed my stance but my stance is not pro women or men, I purely looking at circumstance and filter bs that often permeates discussion . What changed is that some people starting to see where i was coming from.
So you can see how if you charge someone for a service, and others think the service was of questionable value, YOU are the bad guy in their eyes. The people who came to you and voluntarily paid you? Babes in the woods.
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It's almost as if people are the problem.
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Well duh. See the student loan thread in R&P.gameoverman wrote: ↑Thu Jun 21, 2018 3:59 pm
One thing I've learned from reading this thread is that if adults make decisions that turn out to be mistakes, they are not responsible. Someone else manipulated them or abused them.
So you can see how if you charge someone for a service, and others think the service was of questionable value, YOU are the bad guy in their eyes. The people who came to you and voluntarily paid you? Babes in the woods.
That being said, psychological abuse is different especially when society has a history of permissive abuse against women.
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
If you find yourself agreeing with Matrix regarding relationships, you should probably re-evaluate your stance.gameoverman wrote: ↑Thu Jun 21, 2018 3:59 pmOne thing I've learned from reading this thread is that if adults make decisions that turn out to be mistakes, they are not responsible. Someone else manipulated them or abused them.Matrix wrote: ↑Thu Jun 21, 2018 3:07 pm lol enjoyable read, first of I worked with men and women, so I got both perspectives. Second, those 'poor saps' as you put it, were often some very smart people. Professors, business owners, etc. So you just seeing through your own lense, smart people don't just give you money for nothing.
You can fully disregard my point of view, and you are corret I haven't changed my stance but my stance is not pro women or men, I purely looking at circumstance and filter bs that often permeates discussion . What changed is that some people starting to see where i was coming from.
So you can see how if you charge someone for a service, and others think the service was of questionable value, YOU are the bad guy in their eyes. The people who came to you and voluntarily paid you? Babes in the woods.
I'm disappointed in you gameoverman, I didn't take you for a moron, but if this is your outlook and this is what you take away from what I said given Matrix"s posting history, well, so be it.
Edit:. I didn't bother (or even read) with Matrix's response as I'm already familiar with the value of his comments in this arena. Your comments were eye-opening however, gameoverman.
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Re: Chloe Dykstra, Chris Hardwick in She Said/He Said
That's a cute dog. And good for her. It won't stop people with nothing better to do from being an ass to her or accusing her of lying and stuff but I'm glad to see she has the nerve and opportunity to speak her side.
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I am Dyslexic of Borg, prepare to have your ass laminated.
I guess Ray Butts has ate his last pancake.
http://steamcommunity.com/id/daehawk
"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"