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Wife in hospital..stroke

Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:06 pm

Was afraid this is what it was. They will keep her at least 3 days then no telling how long rehab. Im not sure when she will come home. She is in the best hospital though. Its 25-30 miles away but ours that is 6 miles away is a death trap. I wouldn't go there for a hangnail.

She is really out of it right now from the stroke. right side affected but her mental state is just gone. They said it should improve over the next few days. She cant eat drink or walk. :(

So prayers would really be great from anyone. We appreciate it. I have no idea what to do or how to get along without her by my side. Right now Im home taking a shower and feeding the dogs. Our little chihuahua that sleeps with us all all upset. Had to leave him all night in a cool house alone. He already had shelter anxiety. I have to leave to go back and stay each night and then home then back until whenever. I haven't slept. They aren't really doing anything but lots of test.

I dont get it as she was on a strong blood thinner and yet had a stroke or a couple small ones. Said they were places on her back brain that is where they are. So not talking right or anything. I just dont get it. Or what to do in the future to prevent more. And they cant tell me.
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Post by funnygirl » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:12 pm

So sorry to read this. Will be sending positive thoughts that there will be a full recovery.
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Post by Lorini » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:16 pm

So sad to hear this, I hope she gets better soon!!!
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Post by Drazzil » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:26 pm

Hope for a full recovery. Is it too late for the regimen of stroke meds?
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Post by Eel Snave » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:27 pm

Oh damn. I hate that helpless feeling. I'm thinking about ou guys.
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Post by Smoove_B » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:29 pm

So sorry for you and your wife. Here's hoping they can get her stable and then come up with a plan.

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Post by dbt1949 » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:34 pm

My wife's first stroke some eight years ago was a major one. It was surprising she survived. She was in some 6 weeks before she could come home. Her cognitive ability was lessened and she couldn't walk.
She finally got better enough to come home but I had to help her with everything. After 3-4 months she improved enough she could take care of herself pretty much. I'm talking about her personal stuff like going to the bathroom, eating, going to the potty chair next to her bed.
Anyrate the point is it's probably going to be bad for a couple of months but then she'll hopefully recover quite a bit and be close to her old self. She'll still need some help tho.
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Post by dfs » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:35 pm

Prayers for you and yours.

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I hope for all the best for your wife and yourself.
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Post by Isgrimnur » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:49 pm

Best wishes, Dae.
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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:51 pm

Drazzil wrote:
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Hope for a full recovery. Is it too late for the regimen of stroke meds?
She was on a blood thinner and they saw no clot,. So the clot buster would have made to bleed to death from the indie.


Thank you all. I gotta hit the shower but Ill try to re heck this before I leave.
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Post by hepcat » Sat Dec 29, 2018 4:00 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife, Daehawk.
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I hope for the best for you and your wife.

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That sucks man. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
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:-( Cranking up the goodvibes generator on behalf of the both of you.
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Post by Sepiche » Sat Dec 29, 2018 4:17 pm

I hope her recovery is a speedy one Daehawk. Take care of her, but take care of yourself too and let us know if we can help.

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Post by Zarathud » Sat Dec 29, 2018 4:18 pm

Best wishes for a quick and full recovery. Hoping for better news soon!
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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 4:38 pm

Thank you SO very much! I dont know of any help but wishes and prayers. My cousin is meeting me over at the gas station to get me some gas so I can go home and back there everyday so I can take care of our dog then go back to her for the rest of the time till the next day. Its 25 miles or so each way..Im not sure I said that and am heading out. THANKS YOUALL! :wub:

I may be able to check in later on the tablet Im taking if the wifi works there..should.
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Post by Kraken » Sat Dec 29, 2018 5:02 pm

Hoping for the best for you. My dad, whose general health was not good, recovered fully from his first stroke in just a few weeks. So there's a wide spectrum of possible outcomes.

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Post by Zenn7 » Sat Dec 29, 2018 5:17 pm

Had rather hoped we were done with bad health news for the year after the Merry Christmas thread (too much to ask for 1 week of no bad news on the OO front I guess).

Wishing a speedy recovery for your wife and good health for you (always important in times like these to take care of yourself).

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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 6:28 pm

Im back at the hospital. I was only here a couple minute whrn at 5pm they started and iv of heprin or heperin........said it will clesr any clot. I dont understand why they didnt start it last night or all day today. They knew last night there was no bleeding.

I or they cant really know why or she could have a stroke on a strong blood thinner when without it her entire life she had none or clots. Its just scary and strange.
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Post by TheMix » Sat Dec 29, 2018 6:32 pm

Really sorry to hear this, Dae. Hoping for a speedy and full recovery. Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
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Wishing all the best for your family and sending good thoughts your way.

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My best thoughts are to you and your wife. Hope for the best.

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Good luck. We're all rooting for her.

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Post by Blackhawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 10:37 pm

I'm sorry to hear about that. Wish there was something I could do, but I'm pulling for you!
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Post by Hrothgar » Sat Dec 29, 2018 11:05 pm

That's terrible. Please don't forget to take care of yourself. We will pray for her and your family. What is her first name?

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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 11:42 pm

Her name is Donna and Im Brian.

I asked her nurse why they waited some long to give her Heparin. Either she didnt understand me or I didnt understand her. Shee is very sweet and helpful but is Asian and has a strong accent. I never got a straight answer or one I understood. You would think as soon as they saw there was not a bleed they would give her the strong blood thinner. Which would have beenlastnight instead of 5pm today. Donna got worse between then and now.

As for the Tpa or tsomething...the clotbuster. Two main things stopped them giving that to her when I btought her in. One we went to bed friday at 7am in the morning and got up at 5 pm. She was fine at bed time but they said it could have started anytime during the sleep so was out of the 4 hour window. Second they said since she was on Eliquist a strong blood thinner that giving her the clot buster could cause her to bleed internal and bleed out and die.

So basically they waited until her brain places showed up and then started this thinner today. Seeems weird to me butIm not the dozen of docs and people that have came through
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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 11:45 pm

This tablet and the hospital wifi are giving me fits. I type toolong a post and the keyboard goes away then my typed msg goes away and I have to forget and reconnect and reaccept the hospitals ula over and over

Edit .....Thank you all again for the kind thoughts, words,wishes,and prayers. I told her aboutyou. Im not sure she understands right now but maybe soon. She said thanks....as do I again.
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Post by Daehawk » Sat Dec 29, 2018 11:53 pm

And taking care of myself seems out. Ivenot slept since fridsy. Ive tried and tried. I nodded offtwice here tonight holding her hand but instantly I jerked awake. I am afraid to sleep. I go home to feed the dogs and I get upset and start bawli g seeing how she left everything when we left. Then I have to leave the little dog alone and hope he isnt cold, hungry,hurt, or house broken into or on fire. And I rush back thinking Ill sleep here atthe hospital but nope. They try to tell me to rest but I dont think they get it....ormaybe itsjust me...ormeandmy wife. We,re never apart. Always together everywhere 31 years. Alo e inthe car is weird as hell and hurts.
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Thinking about you and Donna right now. I hope she shows improvement quickly.
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Post by MHS » Sun Dec 30, 2018 12:37 am

I’m so sorry to hear this, Brian. I’m hoping for all the best for you and Donna. Your love for her comes across so much in your posts. Sending love. ❤️

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Sorry to hear this news. :( Sending prayers for a speedy recovery.

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Sorry for to hear this. You both have my prayers.
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Post by Daehawk » Sun Dec 30, 2018 2:58 am

This wifi is driving me insanier ☺

She is resting since about 7pm she has had 2 good sleep periods broken buy an hour or so of fidgeting and not getting comfortable. I...and maybe its just me.....but I some slight betterments. Her words are a little better to my ears. She also knew her age. And lastly Ive had to tell her to keep her iv arm straight all night and once she repeated "keep your arm straight" in a smartypants way. haha.

But on the flip side she doesnt know the month or her birthday. Also still drowsy sedated like and stuck in bed and cant focus on my hand and tell me how many fingers. Ill take the other things though.

She is only on fluids and heparin. Thank you all again so very much.
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Post by Daehawk » Sun Dec 30, 2018 3:04 am

31 years so far. We could do more than a 1000 more easy. We are soulmates. As Gump said 2 peas in a pod 😀

Heres where you can laugh....I call her my little one. I picked it up from STTNG with Troi and her mother. She calls me booty. Has since I met her. Sometimes I call her her original nice from childhood...punkin or sometimes punkin bug.

All I can do is hope and pray. Sometimes I fall apart but I do mybest to keep it all good around her.

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Post by hitbyambulance » Sun Dec 30, 2018 3:12 am

my aunt is going through a similar thing with my uncle (who just got his first chemo treatment) - she is a wreck because she feels she has to be the strong one and be there 24/7 for him. wellll it's just not possible, no matter how much you wish it could be so. if you're not taking care of yourself, you eventually won't have the physical strength or mental acuity or emotional stability to be there for her. so caring for yourself IS important. (i told my aunt this, and i hope she remembers.)

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Post by Xmann » Sun Dec 30, 2018 3:24 am

Sorry to here about this my friend. My wife and I will be sending you positive vibes.

Additionally, I'm a nursing director on a rehabilitation unit in a large hospital that is arguably the best stroke hospital in this part of the country. I see and manage these things on a daily basis.

If I can be of any type of help, please let me know. Send me a private message if you'd like.

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Post by Alefroth » Sun Dec 30, 2018 3:55 am

So sorry to hear this, Daehawk. Hoping for a full recovery.

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