Zarathud wrote:Men complaining about the possibility of paying for child support is ridiculous when there's a whole lot more involved in raising a child.
Men complain about child support often because they want no part of being a parent in those situations. They have no intention of being any more involved than the state requires them to be in many cases, and only warm up to the idea when they realize they can't escape it. Some embrace it, but I think they're a rare few. Men have no biological imperative to become fathers. Their biological imperative is to throw as much semen as possible at anything that walks as they can - then they're shocked when it works.
I was a willing participant in getting my wife pregnant because it seemed like the right thing and I wanted a kid with her - but when it actually happened I was dumbfounded. I went through no biological change to adapt to the new situation and had to learn to be a daddy. It did not happen at a chemical level.
A large part of being a woman seems focused on reproduction - monthly cycles, the 'biological clock', baby fever when they get too close to one, etc. Men ... men pretty much just ejaculate because it feels good, not to try and make babies.
I'm not suggesting men aren't equally responsible for pregnancy; they are. I'm just explaining why the first thing they do is complain about child support. For a guy, having seen it a few times, it's basically financial ruin and 18 years of being dragged around by the nose by a woman they want nothing to do with. Even if they end up liking being a daddy, the rest is complete shit.
Zarathud wrote:Wrong. It's mechanically easier to stop the leaky hose than leaky plumbing.
Wrong. As far as I can read, it's less likely that a woman will become pregnant after her tubes are tied than it is that a man will suddenly discover that they're not quite as sterile as they should have been after a vasectomy. That's just the plumbing end. Chemically, women's bodies are better geared to be controlled by artificial hormones to help prevent pregnancy - they have built-in safeguards that can be activated and fooled to stop it. Men have none of that. Both are equally capable of using physical means of birth control, but nothing is 100%.