Blackhawk wrote: ↑Tue Jun 19, 2018 10:30 am
A few people need to pay attention to what she said and was claiming. She said that she was assaulted, yes. The context in which she used it is important. She said that she wasn't providing the worst examples.
I'm only going by what has been written by her, since I have no other information. As to the examples, the examples she did list are examples of bad behavior. Of asshole behavior. Of scumbag behavior, and I don't see anyone disagreeing with that. That's not criminal though. Sexual assault most certainly is criminal. For that you should have a bit of evidence, and hinting there's evidence but not presenting it doesn't count. Until it's presented then no one can say that it really exists. In short, if she had written "This guy is a jerk. Let me tell you about it" then I'd be in agreement, but she went far, far beyond that.
Fireball's definition of coercion is simply one I disagree with. If I've been dating a woman for a year, and one day she tells me "Hey, is this relationship headed towards marriage? I don't want to sink more time in this if marriage isn't on the horizon." is she coercing me into marriage? I say no. I say that she's telling me what she wants, and telling me the relationship may be over if she doesn't get what she wants. How I respond is up to me though, I don't have to do anything. Sure, if I reply I have no intention of getting married in the foreseeable future, the consequences are it's over. That's not coercion. Maintaining the relationship is not a requirement, it's an elective. So how is it different in her case? He wanted sex, by her own words the consequence was 'losing him'.
On a side note, she didn't work for or with him until AFTER they started dating, she wrote that. So this is not a case of a superior abusing their position over an employee. She made that choice to work for him, rather than walking away. She willfully jumped through a lot of hoops to please this guy. Yet some people are releasing her of any responsibility for the adult choices she made and lay the blame on him, and not just for being a jerk but for being guilty of a crime. What does that say about their opinion of her?