I'm going to try to respond to many with one post.
Yankeeman84:
No, I do not think you are not rude. I am not trying to attack or slam you but you always tend come off as obnoxious and a bit too blount at times. Eventually, that gets to most of us and we need to discuss it instead of letting the blood boil and people getting banned or warned over it.
That's why I said "questionably" rude. You could certainly argue that my one line post crossed some "rude" boundary - but you will also find some that would say "nah, that's not really rude".
I don't think we've yet encountered a poster that didn't think that Rob's initial comments weren't rude (thus the "unquestionably" label).
If you believe that I was rude - ok.
Well, I cannot touch that....for obvious reasons. But I would never in public or PM call someone out or call them an asshole. That is not my posting style.
Fair enough, that's why I used jblank as my example and not you. Where was the Meta-Forum thread to discuss the notion of name-calling?
Do you take it up with the Mods? Did you try to work things out? Did you use the Report Post function?
No, I hadn't yet been drawn out back behind the shed by Meal because my 10 words were deemed rude/childish/immature/etc.
I ignored the insults and focused on the meat of the conversation, which was whether or not we all brought similar/equal qualifications to the debate on defense/foreign policy. I was able to do that in that thread because in general, one can talk to jblank, even if he sometimes over-reacts.
Such is not the case with Rob on the issue of spanking (a point that Rob will go out of his way to agree with me on).
Enough:
But, perception is the driver here to repeat myself. And your post came off beyond blunt dude, it came off as angry, rude and as an invitation to respond with escalating remarks.
Fair enough. Percentions can be wrong. The point being, prior to Neal's involvement, there was no escalation. Rob made a comment back that was on par in my book and no further mention of it was made by either party.
You say you didn't want to incite a riot, but you got one. If you truly didn't want one, it may help to slightly restructure your comments in the future to not come off as they did.
I have lots of experience in avoiding riots that I start. I have no idea or experience in how to combat riots that Neal starts in response to my non-riot-inducing posts.
The fact you don't see yourself playing any role in that riot happening and want to blame me and Neal for it, tells me you might feel like you don't need to be accountable for your words and how they might be interpreted by other folks.
I don't think that I need to be accountable for those particular words, no. There are more egregious examples of forum rudeness and lack of sensitivity towards the feelings of others going on as we speak, huddled in here with me on the whipping post.
I expect Meta-Forum threads to deal with them as well, lest Neal achieve what I can only perceive as his goal of setting up different standards for RM9 and the rest of you, that have curiously avoided having your blunt posts disected and enhanced in this manner.
Peacedog:
I seem to recall a number of times we had to speak to him publicly. I'm sorry if you would have preferred us dragging him in here to speaking to him in the thread in question. Or if we missed something (also a possibility).
Neal asked me if I though the joint would be better off with different rules for me than for everyone else. Why do I get different rules - especially considering that I wasn't even in the same zip code as a CoC violation. All I did was bluntly end my involvement in the conversation at hand.